And how he taught me about self love:
My husband and I love going to the movies. His friends might be confused by that statement, since neither of us have seen Star Wars and they can’t seem to let that go… But I digress.
To say I was excited about seeing Bohemian Rhapsody was an understatement. I have always loved belting out to Queen’s music and was pumped to enjoy it on the big screen and to learn the story of the band. I’m the type to enjoy music but not keep up on celebs and their stories. Most of the time I can’t tell you who sings a song, unlike my husband who hears one note and can name the band and the title of the song.
I have been on a self care and self love journey recently (who isn’t right now?), this movie just made me want to love myself even more. Freddie Mercury knew who he was and who he was meant to be. I know that I am not the only one who struggles to find their place in the world. When asked about my dreams or who I am, I tend to tip toe around the question. Never having enough confidence to be proud of who I am, until recently. I have been more outspoken about my dreams for The Golden Rule and for myself, but it is not a solid confidence because what if I fail? What if The Golden Rule doesn’t become a household name like I intended?
But it’s not just about being outspoken about who we are and what we want. It’s being comfortable in our own skin. One of my favorite parts of the movie was before Freddie was a part of Queen he went up to the band after a show and told them that he writes music. The band replied by saying that he’s too late they just lost their lead singer. Freddy said well, in that case I sing too. Roger practically laughed in his face and said not with those teeth! Freddie hesitated then just began vocalizing a beautiful tune and afterwards said “I will be waiting for your call” and walked away leaving the band with their jaws hanging open. That is true confidence. We are told that we can’t have big teeth like Freddie, we are told we can’t have big hair, or a big nose (cue Lady Gaga in A Star is Born).
Andy Warhol said “If everyone isn’t beautiful, then no one is”. In that scene, I felt the confidence from Freddie in my soul and I just wanted to hang on to it. I wanted a small piece of it. I think part of that is doing things that you are scared of and just doing it. The last couple months I have been using the term “living in my light” and it has been so freeing. Do not get me wrong, I still get nervous about other people’s thoughts of me and how I “should” be acting. For instance, I work in fashion so I “should” be dressing a certain way. BUT, when I let those feelings go and listen to my intuition, I am free.
My father always told me when I was struggling that it didn’t matter what people thought of me as long as I was true to myself. Even though he taught it to me I never loved myself the way I should. I’m not sure why I struggled with this so much. I could make excuses and blame the world, society, or marketing, but the reality is I never took the time to figure out what I do love about myself.
You are all so loved and you do not need to prove yourself to anyone, just be yourself. Your presence in this world is enough. Love yourself for who you are. Easier said than done, I get that. I know it better than anyone but if we are working towards that and always growing I really think the world will be a better place. And that is something I have learned too late in life. I would love to hear from you. Do you struggle putting yourself out there or do you have confidence like Freddie?
I challenge you to tell yourself 5 things that you love about yourself right now. I would love to hear about it! Comment below. These are my five: I love that I took the courage to open my own business about an industry I knew nothing about, other than their current system isn’t working and I wanted to be a part of slow fashion. I love that I have such passion for people around the world. I love that I am honoring my struggles. I love that I work constantly to be the best version of myself. I love my tenacity. I have wasted so much time worrying what other people thought of me and I am going to quit. Quit wasting time on something I can’t change. People are going to love me or hate me and that is their choice. What I can change is if I am being the best version of myself.
Thank you Freddie for the lesson! I think we all needed it.